Los padres adoptivos de mi bebe hicieron todo, todo; mi consejera nunca estuvo al pendiente mi, no tienen personal que habla español u otro idioma y en un corto periodo tuve tres consejeras, una desorganizacion total

Afortunadamente para mi bebe, todo salio bien, amo a los padres de mi bebe, amo a mi bebe.

Yo les digo a todos los futuros padres que no desesperen que Dios es muy grande y cuando las cosas no salen en el tiempo y forma que se desea es porque les espera algo mucho mas hermoso.

Los padres de mi bebe tuvieron tres intentos fallidos de adoptar; pero Dios o el destino hizo que nos encontraramos, que tengamos una excelente comunicacion y que sobre todo mi bebe tiene un hogar lleno de amor y tendra todo lo que yo no le pude ofrecer. Y no gracias a IAC sino a la entereza de los padres de mi bebe.

Thanks for posting your comment. I am sure others will read what you wrote and avoid much heartache and expense as a result.

That is what my wife and I are doing for our second adoption. I would rather spend the money networking than paying the Independet Adoption Center

I am so sorry for your loss. I emailed you privately. Let me know if there is anything my wife or I can do to help you through this. We have been there, and it is not an easy place to be.

Strictly speaking, the reclaim itself was not the IAC’s fault, but it could have been avoided if they’d handled the sitation differently. They say they have just a 4-5% reclaim rate because of the counseling services they provide, but neither we nor the birthmother got much in the way of counseling through the process. We found out *after* the reclaim that our match was considered a “high-risk” one because the birthmother was resisting communication with the social worker. That social worker never made that part clear to us, we never heard from her much at all, and we got a strong sense that her efforts to counsel the birthmother consisted of a phone call or a text message every now and then. When we matched, we got a form letter telling us to limit our contacts with the social worker to once a week or in an emergency, so there was little communication going on between anybody. We brought this to the IAC’s attention before the disaster, and they told us our counselor was doing a good job. They maintained that opinion–or claimed to, at least–after the reclaim, too. For the record, our social worker was very young, seemed inexperienced, and displayed surprising insensitivity to certain delicate particulars of the birthmother’s situation. Afterward, the counseling we received was minimal. At that point, though, some committment to handling future matches more carefully would have meant much more to me than counseling. The IAC maintained, however, that they did all they could to avoid our disaster.

I didn’t mind the sales pitch at the beginning of our association with the IAC, because they’re a business and wanted us to go with them instead of some other agency. That seemed understandable. What I didn’t realize then, though, was how little they actually do for their clients. They fell down on their promise of counseling services in a big way. And there’s little else they provide: they link to your website and send out letters for you, but they don’t work to find you a match, they don’t provide an attorney when you need one, they don’t network for you, they don’t get your website out there on the rest of the internet, etc. If I had known all that at the beginning, I would have gone with a private attorney, or I would have shopped around for an agency much more carefully. We didn’t know nearly as much then as we do now, though, and hindsight is always 20/20. Maybe other agencies are the same? I don’t know, but I hope stories like this can be helpful for people considering what route to adoption they want to take.